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In the simplest sense,
temperament refers to the idea that we all have certain inborn
traits that we inherit. These traits differ from person to
person and give us each a certain uniqueness. Getting to know
about some of the basic differences can be very helpful in
better understanding one another, and thus in parenting and in
personal and family life.
Some
Specific Definitions
Temperament: This word
is usually reserved for very broad descriptions that might
include two or several of the "preferences" listed below.
It is also frequently used outside of the descriptions we have
here, to mean any broad set of characteristics that are
relatively permanent, show up early in life and have some
genetic basis.
Preference: This comes from Jung
and from the work done later by Myers to develop a measuring
scale (the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator or MBTI). Preference refers to the idea that in each pair of
opposites below, we are capable of the behaviors on either side,
but feel more comfortable, and thus prefer one set more
than the other.
Type: Continuing with Myers and the MBTI, the four sets of opposites,
giving eight
possible preferences, can be combined to form 16 possible
"types". For example, if you are Extraverted, Sensing,
Thinking and Perceiving, using the first letter of
each preference, we would say that you are an ESTP type.
Each preference is seen as affecting the other preferences so
that the outcome is a unique profile.
The Four
Preference Pairs
Extraversion/Introversion
These are pretty familiar terms.
We all know that extraverts tend to be sociable, like to be with
large groups of people, and generally love to talk. What may be
less familiar is that very strong extraverts tend to be somewhat
impulsive and may be restless and unproductive when working alone for
long periods of time. The truth is, there are strengths and
weaknesses on both sides of all the preference pairs.
Introverts similarly prefer to socialize only with
a few close friends and often enjoy spending time alone. They may
find large groups and prolonged social events to be stressful. At
the same they tend to find more internal stimulation in their own ideas,
plans and potential projects and can be very content working on their
own.
Sensing/Intuition
Sensors, as Carl Jung described them, are people
with a great interest in the practical, here-and- now world. They
love accumulating information, and building strong, useful skills.
They may have little interest in a distant future, or in purely
theoretical issues.
Intuitives go in directly the opposite direction, loving
theory-building, always looking for the "Big Picture" imagining what the
future might bring, and sometimes being impatient and even disrespectful
of mere hard facts.
Thinking/Feeling
This distinction has nothing to do with the ability
to think or to have feelings. Instead, it is basically a
question of the strategy you rely on when you have decisions to make or
unpleasant interpersonal issues to resolve. The thinker tends to
rely on logic and reason as the primary tool in these situations, and to
downplay both his or her own feelings and the feelings of others.
The person with a feeling preference, on the other
hand, will tend to put the emphasis on his or her own emotional
needs and values, and the same needs and values in others. The
thinker might say "you're fired" and give several good logical reasons,
believing this is helpful. The feeler might try to find a way to
save the situation, or at least to let the other person down very
gently.
Judging/Perceiving
These are probably the least familiar terms of the
eight preference names, but when you read about them you will
immediately realize that they describe qualities you see every day in
friends, family, and perhaps yourself.
Strong judgers are persons who
are highly organized, who like a structure to their days, and generally
enjoy keeping to do lists and day planners. They are good at getting
things done, but not so good at dropping everything they planned, to do
something else.
Strong perceivers, on the other hand, tend to hate all of that.
They like to see the day unfold as it will, may start and stop
frequently on different activities or projects, and generally prefer a
spontaneous approach to life. They can work with fierce enthusiasm
on new and exciting projects, but are not so talented at follow-up and
completion.
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